chronic stress

The myth of happiness and building mental safety nets

The myth of happiness and building mental safety nets

No one has their sh*t together. Happiness is the wrong goal.  The more I read and think about it, the more I am aware that it is just a fleeting emotion. For some reason, I had framed it as a destination. Every day, I have to work on understanding where I am emotionally in that moment because my goal is stability on average.  I work on appreciating my highs and lows so I know where the middle is and that is where I am aiming for. Usually, my lows are holes that I can either dig or scramble out of but a few times in my life, the holes were deeper. No matter how hard I tried, I kept...

When did writing get so hard

When did writing get so hard

If someone were to ask me how often I write - I would have said every day. I write emails all day long, it is my main mode of conversation in business. But is this really writing? These polite, concise and purpose-driven communications that are now the default. I don't write anything that doesn't have a specific, commercial or organisational purpose - emails, website copy, lists for shopping or future plans. To be fair, I was never a writer but I have been considering all of the old skills that are atrophying for me these days - specifically - reading and writing but also walking in...