Sometimes we forget that the world of work has been created by a very small percentage of predominantly privileged white men. When we read the stories of how they succeeded and internalise how their drive, morning routines, long hours and consistency got them to where they are, we forget all of the things they didn't have to battle to show up every day. I can't speak for everyone else but personally, every day I battle my hormonal state that naturally fluctuates every month, my 4-month-old baby who dictates how much sleep I get, the kitchen floors and countertops after my whirlwind...
mental health
The myth of happiness and building mental safety nets
No one has their sh*t together. Happiness is the wrong goal. The more I read and think about it, the more I am aware that it is just a fleeting emotion. For some reason, I had framed it as a destination. Every day, I have to work on understanding where I am emotionally in that moment because my goal is stability on average. I work on appreciating my highs and lows so I know where the middle is and that is where I am aiming for. Usually, my lows are holes that I can either dig or scramble out of but a few times in my life, the holes were deeper. No matter how hard I tried, I kept...