No one has their sh*t together. Happiness is the wrong goal.  The more I read and think about it, the more I am aware that it is just a fleeting emotion. For some reason, I had framed it as a destination. Every day, I have to work on understanding where I am emotionally in that moment because my goal is stability on average.  I work on appreciating my highs and lows so I know where the middle is and that is where I am aiming for. Usually, my lows are holes that I can either dig or scramble out of but a few times in my life, the holes were deeper. No matter how hard I tried, I kept...